Bullycide: Why Wait?

  • Posted: February 8, 2010 and this post was last modified April 4, 2011.

Many people are empowered by tragedy; it motivates them to better the world around them so others don’t have to suffer as they did. Why it takes a tragic loss to have others care for others as we already should is beyond me, but for some reason, tragedy invokes compassion. We’ve all seen it: your loved one dies of cancer so you become a cancer advocate or someone close to you is screwed over by a big business so you do everything you can to make others aware and campaign against the major corporation. Whatever the reason or scenario, a wrong must be made right; especially if it is a wrong against a loved one.

By why wait until it hits close to home?

There is a reason that we say that children are our future: apart from the fact that they are, they are the ones that grow up to be who we wanted to be. We can mold them into men who respect women or women who stand up to men; we can create a better future than the one we were groomed for or allow the state of things to stay the same. When we pass, our children must carry on the legacy that is the future.

So what does that have to do with anything?

If we want to make a change, it starts with how we raise our kids. Teach our boys to be kind to women, and they won’t abuse them. Teach our girls to be independent and they won’t stay in an abusive relationship. Teach our kids that it is not ok to belittle others and we will groom compassionate adults. Better are the days when men will help men because it is the right thing to do, and not because of the gain they may achieve. If we teach our kids that it is not what others thinks that matters, but rather what we [or God] think of ourselves that is the ultimate key to happiness, then we arm them to block a bully’s beatings. If we teach them what to do in a quarrel, we give them an out. If we teach them that it is ok to discuss any problems they are having with a trusted adult, we give them a voice.

In a perfect world…but we don’t live in a perfect world.

Kids are not all the same; there are no cookie cutter instructions that you can follow to assure that a child will grow up to be able to withstand a bully or not become a bully himself. But why wait until it is your child that feels he has no other choice in the world but to commit suicide? Why wait until it’s too late?

It’s never too late to save another child, sure, but what about your child? Or loved one’s children? What about children, period? They are our future; they are the ones that will carry on the hopes and dreams we had for ourselves and attempt to make the world a better place than even we could have imagined. They are the ones that will carry on our legacies. Why wait?

You don’t have to feel empowered to stand up against bullycide. You can talk to your school officials about their policies, rally your neighbors to stay alert for a bully, and even just become an active participant in your child’s school life so you can have first hand knowledge of what is going on with them at school. If you don’t have kids, you can still make a difference. You can mentor a child, you can still rally your friends and loved ones, and you still have a voice that you can use in school board meetings.

If you need to feel the heartache before you can feel empowered, read the Bullycide in America book. Watch the clips on YouTube of videos devoted to friends and loved ones who thought they had no other choice but to commit suicide to get away from the bullying. Bullycide is the very idea that someone commits suicide because they were bullied beyond the point that they could withstand. It’s not that they were bullied or even couldn’t handle a bully; it’s just that the were bullied past their breaking point.

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